You Don't Need to Become Someone Else.

Before you can make big decisions, you have to practice with the little ones.

I guide you through daily experiments to learn what you want and need, starting with the little mundane things. That probably fly under your radar every single day.

Because the little things are where big things happen.

Protection, understanding, unruly confidence.

-Nettles

Big Decisions Don't Start With Big Decisions

They start with little everyday moments where you practice listening to yourself.

Before

-You say no, then immediately start explaining why.

-You survey everyone in your circle before making a decision.

-You know what everyone else wants for dinner, but have no idea what you would want.

-You change your mind because someone else didn't like your first answer.

-You want something, but immediately start reasoning why you shouldn't.

-You make the “right” choice and then spend the next three days wondering if it actually was.

-You don't know whether you want to stay, go, quit, start, rest, push through, or change course. So you ask someone else.

After

-You say no without needing to make your case.

-You make a decision knowing you might have to adjust it later.

-You notice what you want before automatically considering everyone else's wants.

-You can hear someone disagree with you without assuming you've made the wrong choice.

-You can want something without immediately deciding whether you're allowed to have it or to have earned it.

-You make the best decision you can with what you know, and trust yourself to handle what comes next.

-You don't need to know exactly how something will turn out before you're willing to find out.

You Don't Need Another Solution

You've been given plenty of answers. Told what you should do. How you should think. What your boundaries should look like. What your morning routine should be. What the “right” choice is.

It's not that you're incapable of following the advice. But it wasn't built for your life and who you are.

No One-Size-Fits-All

Your life isn't a case study. Your kids, job, marriage, energy, responsibilities, personality and circumstances are yours. So the answer has to be yours, too.

Try It. See What Happens.

We don't need to know whether something will work before you try it. That's the point of an experiment. Try something that you want to, and let it be small. Pay attention. Keep what works. Change what doesn't.

Your Life Is Your Lab.

You don't have to create the perfect conditions before you start. We work with the life you actually have. The messy kids, inconvenient schedules, conflicting priorities and all.

It's what makes your life uniquely yours, and the solutions should be too.

I'm Not an Expert On You.

I'm Bethany. I'm an RN, nurse coach, a mom, a wife, and a woman who has spent plenty of time being very good at doing what needed to be done.

I've also spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I wanted underneath all of that.

I didn't need another person to tell me who I should become, but I sure tried a lot of options first. What I actually needed was to get better at noticing myself in the middle of an ordinary life, and figuring out what actually worked for me, in my life.

That's what I'm interested in now.

I Live Here Too

Messy kids. Work. Marriage. Responsibilities. Plans that change. Days where the experiment goes so wrong I have to laugh at the absurdity.

I Don't Have The Answer For You

And honestly, I don't think you need me to. I can give you a question, an experiment, a place to look, and help you make sense of what you find.

But the rest is up to you and what you want.

I'm Still in The Lab

That's not a disclaimer. It's the point. I don't believe you graduate from figuring yourself out. You get better at it.

Why Experiments?

What if you stopped trying to figure it out?

Not in a way where you give up or stop caring, unless that is part of the experiment.

But to stop trying to figure out the answer before you have any information.

You don't know if takeout will actually make your evening easier until you try it.

You don't know if saying no will ruin the relationship until you say no.

You don't know if asking for what you want will make someone angry until you ask.

You don't know if leaving the job will make your life better until you leave.

So we start smaller.

Notice. Try something. See what happens. Learn.

Experiment With Me

To be completely blunt with you, real life doesn't hold an exact blueprint for any one person so there can't be a one size fits all.

However, every season brings new opportunities to challenge what we thought we knew. So the experiments need to change to account for that variable too.

Each season, we experiment with a theme that can be applied to the life you actually have.

Through small experiments to try, space to notice what happens, and a place to bring what you learn.

There’s no right answer. No catching up. No falling behind.

You try something.
You notice what happens.
You learn something about yourself.
Then you decide what to do with it.

The little things are where big things happen.

What’s included

Weekly live gatherings to talk through what experiments looked like and what you've been learning,

New experiments to try in your actual life your way.

A place to share your discoveries, questions, and spectacular failures.

Simple reflection practices to help you turn experience into information.

A community of women experimenting alongside you.

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